Alok Says:
May 1, 2007 at 5:40 am
Dear Sir / Fellow victims of 498a
Can you please advice me on this…
My Wife has asked for a divorce and with all kinds of false allegations on me, but with Gods grace and elders blessings she failed to prove all the allegations and has accepted that there was foul play in it.
The court has advised that its advisable to close this issue as if we prolong it and have counter allegations our life’s will be wasted. They have advised that both the parties have to withdraw their cases and have a settlement. The judge has ordered that I have to pay Rs. 5 Lakhs and towards permanent alimony and Rs. 1 Lakh toward the wedding expenses incurred by my wife’s side
I WANTED YOUR ADVICE ON – AS FAR AS MY UNDERSTANDING GOES, IF THE WIFE MAKES AN ATTEMPT OR INITIATES THE DECISION TO PART WAYS THE HUSBAND IS NOT LIABLE TO PAY ANY MONEY AS ALIMONY OR PERMANENT SETTLEMENT. CAN YOU PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND THIS.
BELOW A BRIEF DETAILS OF MY UGLIEST SPOT IF MY LIFE
Name: K. ALOK JAISWAL
Email: alokjaiswalk@yahoo.com
Location:HYDERABAD / ANDHRA PRADESH
Hear about us: GoogleSearch
498A Registered: YES
498A Place: WOMENS PROTECTION CELL
498A Date: 23 MARCH 2007
Any Other IPCs:
Relatives Accused: MOTHER & FATHER
Jailed Days: YES
Stage of Case: caseCourt
Spent Money on 498A: 15000
Lived in joint Family: NO
Marriage Date: 23 NOV 2005
Wife Age: 26
Wife’s Education Level: other
Wife works (earns)?: works
Filed for Divorce: YES
Have children: NO
Living With Wife: NO
Negotiating with Wife: YES
Took her Stridhan Back: YES
She had Any Medical Problems: NO
Willing to Help other Victims: NO
Contact No: 09963455545
Comments: WIFE FILED CASE STATING THAT WE HAVE HARASSED HER FOR MORE DOWRY, CAR & TO BUY MODERN ELECTRONIC ITEMS. SHE ALSO STATED THAT WE HAVE PHYSICALLY ABUSED HER.
SHE IS DEMANDING 25 LAKHS AS COMPENSATION, SHE ALLEGES THAT I AM IMPOTENT AND MENTALLY NOT SOUND.
A BRIEF OF MY WIFE'S FAMILY BACKGROUND:
SHE IS THE SECOND SIBLING IN THEIR FAMILY WITH SISTER THE ELDER ONE AND A YOUNGER BROTHER. FATHER DOESN'T EARN AND HAD BEEN DECLARED INSOLVENT IN THE YEAR 2001 / 2002 AFTER SUFFERING FROM HUGE LOSSES. THEIR HOUSE RUNS ON THE RENT THEY GET FROM ONE OF THEIR ANCESTRAL PROPERTY. AS A CHILD I DON'T THINK SHE HAD A HEALTHY ATMOSPHERE TO GROW. SHE USE TO TELL ME THAT HER FATHER HAD AN AFFAIR WITH SOME OTHER WOMEN AND HE USE TO DRINK AND ABUSE PHYSICALLY HER MOTHER IF SHE INTERVENED. YOUNGER BROTHER ALSO TRIED TO MOLEST HER WHEN SHE WAS 18 OR 19 YEARS. MOTHER IS A MENTAL PATIENT FROM PAST 15 YEARS. SISTER HAD AN AFFAIR WITH THEIR FIRST COUSIN AND COULD NOT MARRY HIM BECAUSE MARRIAGES WITH FIRST COUSINS IS NOT PERMITTED IN OUR SOCIETY. SHE HAD TO MARRY SOMEONE ELSE AND AFTER 2YEARS OF HER MARRIAGE TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE AS SHE WAS UNABLE TO BEAR HER IN-LAWS TORTURE.
SHE WANTS 25 LAKHS A COMPENSATION STATING THAT I AM IMPOTENT, I HAVE NO PROPERTY ON MY NAME AND I ALSO DON’T HAVE ANY BANK BALANCES. I WORK FOR A FREIGHT FORWARDING COMPANY AS AN ASST. MANAGER WITH A TAKE HOME SALARY OF RS.14, 350 PM.
PLEASE ADVICE WITH MY EARNINGS HOW MUCH CAN I SHELL OUT AS ONE TIME COMPENSATION. & IS IMPOTENCY IS JUST LEVELED AGAINST ME AND THERE WAS NO PROFESSIONAL CONFIRMATION GIVEN AS WHEN WE APPROACHED A SEXOLOGIST HE SAID THAT A PERSON NEEDS TO BE PHYSIOLOGICAL NORMAL TO KNOW IF HE IS SUFFERING FROM IMPOTENCE. CAN I COUNTER A CASE ON HER THAT SHE HAS DEFAMED ME AND MY FAMILY WITH FALSE ALLEGATIONS?
AWAIT YOUR PRECIOUS ADVICE SOON.
THANKS!
ALOK
- - - - - - - -Alok's case is unfortunate. More unfortunately, the parameters of this divorce case form a template for divorces now occurring among Jaiswals of Hyderabad and I assume elsewhere. Both the sides wash away the dirty laundry in public and later come to their senses and go their separate way.
As a bigger issue, the disadvantages of the practice of arranged marriages is definitely worth a closer look. What doesn't kill, makes one stronger and lessons are learned and presumably are not repeated by Alok and his partner and others who have now become familiar with this case.
