Jaiswal marriages in Hyderabad have experienced a lot of changes during the past decade. The changes are both good and bad. Here are some thoughts, if you have any, do share them in comments.
Positive changes in Jaiswal marriages and customs in Hyderabad
Positive changes in Jaiswal marriages and customs in Hyderabad
- The problem of dowry to marry off a girl seems to be decreasing.
- Intercaste marriages are not rare among Jaiswal community members in Hyderabad. It is no longer a taboo for Jaiswal women to marry men from other Hindu communities. Jaiswal women from Hyderabad are getting married to men from Telugu/South Indian background.
- In rare cases, Jaiswal women have married Muslim men and unfortunately the success rate has not been great. A Jaiswal woman marrying a Muslim man would mean a conversion of religion from Hinduism to Islam and eating beef and this is still avoided by most Jaiswal community members.
- There was a time in Hyderabad where Jaiswal sabha community used to talk about samuhik marriages. Now marriages have become a chance for people to show off their wealth. The rich might enjoy this show off behavior briefly for a few days but what about the middle class and poor Jaiswal community members. Why not show off Jaiswal sanskaar instead?
- Relationships have become more shallow and breakable. Fights among close relatives over money or power have become disturbingly severe and common. In fact, the people themselves have changed not only in Jaiswal community but Hyderabad itself.
- Arranged marriages of girls who are from a poor background or not the best looks are a nightmare for parents.
- Women dancing during marriages was rare. Nowadays this is common.
